Ive been dating my girlfriend for 4 years

Hey, guess what? I got married two weeks ago. I think most newlyweds do this, especially after a few cocktails from the open bar they just paid way too much money for. But, of course, not being satisfied with just a few wise words, I had to take it a step further. See, I have access to hundreds of thousands of smart, amazing people through my site.

These Are The Real Reasons Your Long-Term Boyfriend Hasn't Proposed Yet

Finding a date in today's fast-paced world is challenging enough, without the complication of hooking up with a guy who seems to have another girl on the side. Girls have to be more cautious when choosing the guys they will be in a relationship with, because there are men who like to play around, and you might not be the only he is referring to when he changes his status to "In a relationship". Was this helpful?

Yes No I need help In your heart of hearts, you know you are much more into the relationship than he is, but now you are beginning to think someone else is in the picture as well. If you start to have nagging doubts about him, and recognize things that might indicate he has a secret girlfriend, here are some red flags to look out for. Yes No I need help 1 He never takes you to places where his friends might be. His version of a date always seems to be someplace quiet and private. At first this struck you as romantic, but now you're beginning to ask yourself if he's just making sure you remain hidden.

Perhaps you are the secret girlfriend. Advertisement Was this step helpful? Yes No I need help 2 He hardly ever calls you by your first name. Men who live double lives know if they use names, they may accidentally call one girl by the other girl's name. To prevent that from happening, the 'charmer' will call you hun, or sweetie, or love, adopting a 'no name' policy.

Yes No I need help 3 He never takes you to his place. If your boyfriend lives alone or says he does , but he never takes you there, that should be a red flag. If he is too embarrassed to invite you because he is a slob, he should either get over his embarrassment, hire a maid, or clean up his place. Before jumping to conclusions, make sure it's just his dirty socks he's hiding, and not his dirty laundry. Was this step helpful?

Yes No I need help 4 You can never get in touch with him outside of your scheduled dates. Every time you call him outside the times you've scheduled dates - it goes to voicemail, and even then, he does not return your calls" a red flag. Yes No I need help 5 He has never introduced you to his friends, family or his co-workers, or people. If you have been together for more than a month or two, it's unlikely there hasn't been at least one occasion or opportunity for him to introduced him to 'his people'.

He should be interested in introducing you to at least his friends. Some men take a long time when it comes to family. If you've never met anyone connected to him, that's a huge red flag, unless he's recently moved to the area. Something is not right, and you probably already know it. Yes No I need help 6 In his wallet, he keeps pictures of his former girlfriend. There isn't a picture of you in his wallet, but there is a picture of his ex.

Perhaps this woman is a bigger part of his life than he's admitting. When people move on to a new relationship they usually consign photos to the trash can or at least a box they keep out of sight. This is, of course, awkward because you can't confront him about it without letting him know you intruded into his privacy. It is likely that this kind of guy would make it very difficult to see inside his wallet.

Still" a red flag. Yes No I need help 7 His cell phone is strictly off limits. Your boyfriend has made it clear even without telling you directly that his cell phone is off limits. It's password protected and he never leaves it lying around. If this is his attitude, chances are there are things on his cell he doesn't want you to know about.

This should make you wonder if he has a secret girlfriend because he should be able to trust you, you should be able to trust him, and it's hard to establish trust when there is a mystery cell phone in the picture. Another red flag. Yes No I need help 8 Neither your pictures nor pictures of the two of you together make it to his Facebook page. You are friends on Facebook, but you have a feeling there's a lot you don't see on his page. You certainly don't see your pictures plastered there, and you can't open some of the photo albums in his account.

He may have you on limited access, and that is a major red flag. Yes No I need help 9 There's not a trace of you with him anywhere. There's nothing on Facebook or Twitter, or anywhere that the two of you were ever together. It's as if he does not want any evidence that he has a life with you. Be careful if this is how your guy is because he may not really be your guy after all, and unwittingly, you may be the 'other woman'. Yes No I need help 10 He cancels dates with lame excuses.

Canceling on dates and giving poor excuses is a sign that not all is well with the relationship, especially if this is compounded by your total ignorance of his workplace, and the circles he moves in. Yes No I need help 11 Being with him seems a lot like time-sharing. You are only able to see him or spend time with him Fridays, or Saturdays or Sundays" never the whole weekend, and always according to a pre-arranged time. You also never see each other during the week, or if you do it is only late in the evening, or only for lunch in some out-of-the-way restaurant.

He never sleeps over and you never stay at his place, often, you haven't seen his place. All these signs may mean not only that he has a secret girlfriend; he may actually have a wife, making you the secret girlfriend. Yes No I need help 12 His female relatives don't live with him, but his bathroom has feminine hygiene products in the drawers. That is definitely not a good sign. Even if he doesn't have a female living with him you know that these products imply a certain amount of intimacy.

This should be another red flag for you. Yes No I need help 13 You find things at his place and in his car that is not yours, but they definitely belong to a woman. Women drop things and leave things behind like magazines, and earrings. If you find stuff like that in his car or his house then there must be another woman visiting aside from you. Yes No I need help 14 He needs privacy for certain calls. Most of the time if his phone rings, he'll simply answer it and talk even when you are around.

There are calls, however, that he seems to need privacy for. He'll go where you can't hear him, or he'll angle his body so you can't see what he is texting. Often, there are calls he ignores. If you have been telling yourself you are just being controlling or paranoid, you can stop it right there. This is suspicious behavior and deserving of a big red flag.

He looks at it. Sends the message to that person? You are so sexy He never communicates when he is at home, only silence. What can she do because she feels being cheated? He makes me think I am? It's true that finding a date is a challenge these days, and finding a boyfriend is even more difficult. If he has another girlfriend on the sly, you shouldn't waste your time on him.

Another term for this would be "cheating". Get cracking and look for someone else! No, not every guy has a secret girlfriend. Theoretically, there are men who cheat and there are some who are faithful to their girlfriends or spouses. Men cheat for a number of reasons - there are men who just get caught up in the moment while some have become experts in the art of deception. It is really difficult to deal with guys who womanize or have secret and illicit affairs because someone is bound to get hurt in the process, and it usually isn't him.

The devastation and damage left in the wake of this kind of self-centered, narcissistic man is unconscionable In fact, every person, both women, all women, any children" everyone involved with this manipulative man is adversely affected. The good news is that there are guys who are still worth your trust. Love is a risk; or so they say. However, when it comes to relationships, you must always weigh your decisions based on facts and not get caught up in the raw, crazy emotions of being in love.

Yes No I need help Should I keep my phone blocked from my cheating ex-boyfriend? I just found out I may have been my ex's secret girlfriend for three years. I left him last week and am very devastated by it. I don't get what he wants from me. I've blocked his number but almost have this need to see what he wants? Should I keep it blocked? Yes No I need help Keep it blocked. He is living with another woman and you were his side dish for 3 years. That means that he has become extremely comfortable with cheating and if you do go back to him, he will just keep continuing his cheating ways.

If he continues to contact you, you can send him a text stating that if he does not stop you will go after a no contact court order which would involve the woman he was living with. Trust me he will stop then because he does not want to be forced out of that relationship or he would have left years ago when he met you. Yes No I need help I was just looking at your site cause I don't want to be a secret?

I met a guy and he doesn't like to really talk about his past.

I don't think that's wrong or anything I respect her decision but we've talked about getting married and we're waiting 4 years til her dad gets. Our relationship wasn't like that; it was like the 80 year old man who had heart failure The world laughs at you when you only date one person. he's known for a decade and he's had as a girlfriend for over a third of his life. Even my readers have grown to love him from the stories I've told about us.

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Finding a date in today's fast-paced world is challenging enough, without the complication of hooking up with a guy who seems to have another girl on the side.

It was my first and, to date, only relationship and lasted less than two years. I was devastated for a long time. Since then, I have recovered from the psychological problems I was having.

Identify Signs a Guy Has a Secret Girlfriend

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Living with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Here's how they could get maintenance after you break up

Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. My ex has broken up with me yesterday. We have dated since I was 17 and now I'm 21 and the relationship is over. She left me because our relationship has been a little rocky and she found herself attracted to someone else. The break up was respectful and I respect her for breaking it off with me before she "did anything" with him. I believe her because I still feel that I can trust her. I know there is no way to be back with her. I understand that some may view this as just a highschool heartache and that the relationship isn't serious.

This was the patient who was, for all intents and purposes, deceased.

There's no rulebook or strategy when it comes to dating someone and knowing the right time to finally pop the question and seal the deal with them. You could date for six years and feel too chill about making any sudden move to promise them a lifetime together forever. Since there's no right time, right place or right moment in a relationship for a boyfriend to ask his SO if they are in it to win it, how do you know when to do it? Some guys don't.

The Death of a 7 Year Relationship

Your ex broke up with you and left you heartbroken. And while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, your ex has started another relationship. However, you are still not convinced. Your ex seems happy and their new relationship seems to be going perfectly. And the thought of it just being a rebound relationship is very comforting. The first sign is quite obvious. Some people jump from one relationship to another without waiting at all. On the other hand, it could be that your ex waited months before entering the new relationship and it could still be a rebound depending if they never really got over you. If their behavior resembles that of a person in a rebound relationship, you can be know for sure whether or not you have a chance at getting back together. You will not be obsessing over them so much and you will be able to concentrate on your happiness more. A rebound relationship is simply an attempt to fill a hole in your life that was left by an ex.

Is Your Ex In a Rebound Relationship? Find Out With These Telltale Signs

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